Saturday, December 19, 2009

The argument regarding Public Schools and Driver's Ed

Anyone who knows me knows I have no love for public school. Once upon a time when there was real respect for education and people realized what a privilege it was to have a public school, there was true instruction, discipline and respect.

Nowadays, public school, in most forms, is little more than a glorified daycare. As usual, I blame the parents. Parents have gotten so mind numbingly lazy and clueless these days that honestly, they shouldn't even be allowed to procreate. Much of the mess that public school is today is due to lazy, clueless parenting.

And here's another example: http://seattletimes.nwsource.com/html/nationworld/2010541198_apusdriversedcuts.html?syndication=rss

Here's the story anyway:

Some schools are dropping driver's ed to cut costs

Beginning driver Ashley Crawford grips the worn gray steering wheel and warily begins maneuvering the 1999 Ford Escort through a set of bright orange traffic cones outside Killian Senior High School.

Associated Press Writer

MIAMI —

Beginning driver Ashley Crawford grips the worn gray steering wheel and warily begins maneuvering the 1999 Ford Escort through a set of bright orange traffic cones outside Killian Senior High School.

She considers herself lucky: Because of budget cuts, many schools around the country are leaving driver's ed by the side of the road. They are cutting back on behind-the-wheel instruction or eliminating it altogether, leaving it to parents to either teach their teenagers themselves or send them to commercial driving schools.

"If my parents would have taught me, it would have been different," said Ashley, a 16-year-old sophomore. "When I drive, they try to tell me what to do, and I get nervous."

Some educators and others worry that such cutbacks could prove tragic.

"As soon as people start taking driver's education away from the kids, we're going to pay for it with lost lives, collisions, and ultimately that costs everybody," said John Bolen, past president of the Florida Professional Driving School Association.

Some worry also that many parents can't afford the $350 to $700 that private lessons can cost or don't have the skills to teach their kids themselves. Even for those who can do it, the combination of parents, teenagers and learning how to drive can be volatile.

In more than half the states, minors who want a license must take driver's education from a certified instructor, said Allen Robinson, CEO of the American Driver and Traffic Safety Education Association. However, that doesn't necessarily mean schools are required to offer a class. (Generally, after age 18, would-be drivers do not have to undergo any formal instruction.)

High schools started rolling back driver's ed after their effectiveness was called into question in the 1980s. The more recent cutbacks have been driven by school funding shortages, and the trend might be accelerating because of the downturn in the economy, said J. Peter Kissinger, president and CEO of the AAA Foundation for Traffic Safety.

Robinson said the nation's schools have all but eliminated driver's ed as an elective course offered during the school day.

Here in Miami-Dade County, the nation's fourth-largest school system got rid of driver's ed during the day at all but Killian and another school. Students can still enroll in a free after-school course at one of the district's adult education centers. But that is not an option for the many thousands of students who play sports or are involved in other extracurricular activities, or cannot get a ride.

About 10 high schools in Georgia eliminated or reduced driver's education this school year. A dozen more did the same in Kansas last year. In Volusia County, Fla., schools eliminated daytime driver's ed three years ago, replacing it with summer, after-school and Saturday classes. Enrollment plummeted two-thirds, saving about $400,000 a year.

"This is not because they don't believe in driver's ed," said Bob Dallas, director of the Georgia Governor's Office of Highway Safety. "They do, but they're facing the same financial pressure that everybody in government is facing."

In rural Pennsylvania, the Titusville district got rid of the behind-the-wheel portion of its program last spring, saving about $20,000. In Blountville, Tenn., the driver's education program was cut in half about five years ago because of budget woes. Administrators considered eliminating the $130,000-a-year program last spring, but did not.

"It could save lives. It's very simple," said Jack Barnes, director of schools in Sullivan County, Tenn. "We don't want any of our students injured or killed because of mistakes they made that possibly a program like this could help."

Motor vehicle crashes are the leading cause of death for U.S. teens; in 2007, an average of 11 16- to 19-year-olds died every day. But Russ Rader, a spokesman for the Insurance Institute for Highway Safety, said studies show there is no difference in crash risk between 16- and 17-year-olds who take driver's ed and those who don't.

"In some cases, driver's education has a negative effect because in some states you can get a license sooner if you take driver's ed," he said.

Private instructors aren't necessarily picking up all the students who can't take driver's ed at school.

Julio Torres, an instructor at the Easy Method Driving School in Miami, said he suspects the downturn in the economy is playing a role. He also said some parents simply prefer to teach their kids.

But Torres and others said parents, despite their best intentions, aren't always the best instructors. For one thing, they may pass their own bad driving habits on to their children.

Also, "the kids are at a stage where they're confrontational with their parents," said Brenda Bennett, owner of a driving school in Erie, Pa., that holds contracts to teach driver's ed through some area high schools. "Then you add driving with a parent and you have more confrontation. Whereas someone like myself, when we take kids out, there's no personality going there. It's just all business."

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Now, I get why most parents don't teach their teens to drive. But I also know SCORES of teens who've been driving on their farms and ranches since they were twelve and thirteen years old and when it comes to being taught something by their parents it's not "Like OMG, like totally Mom, like you SO don't know what it's like to be a teenager and driving", it's "Yes sir, and No Sir and Yes Ma'am and No Ma'am." See a difference? I do. It's called "How You Raise Them to Respect You"

But that's not my point. Anyone who has ever read my blog knows what I think about liberal, hands off, don't stifle my precious baby's creativity style parenting.

No, what pissed me off about this story was THIS quote: As soon as people start taking driver's education away from the kids, we're going to pay for it with lost lives, collisions, and ultimately that costs everybody," said John Bolen, past president of the Florida Professional Driving School Association."

Um....excuse me??? You mean if a child doesn't learn how to drive in school...somehow that child will get a license anyway and go out and kill people? Even if I COULD wrap my head around that philosophy, since when did some idiot modern day teenager EVER listen to anything taught in a public school???

Public schools teach them (ad nauseum) about the ills of drinking and driving...yet every year I see more and more of these asshole roadside memorials dedicated to someone's high school pal who decided, at the ripe old age of 16 or 17, that she/he knew better with a gut full of alcohol that taking that turn with a car load of asshole friends was a smart move.

Public schools pass out condoms and require 8th graders to tote around a baby doll all day to teach them that the responsibilities of parenthood at an early age are cumbersome. Doesn't stop "hookups" in college or teen pregnancy or teen STDs.

These are just two examples of curriculum that schools teach that students pay absolutely no attention to so what makes me think that statistical deaths on the road will increase if Driver's Education is not taught in public schools.

There is another argument to this that also just royally pisses me off: "The parents won't teach the children so the public school has to." No. If a teen wants a driver's license, the teen can go to a school that will teach them what the parent won't. Do I care if the parent can't afford the school's fees? No I don't. The public schools can barely get classrooms of fifty or more disrespectful, obstinate louts to read and write with any success and NOW parents want the schools to teach them more??

Just what, exactly, are the parents teaching their children? Well... let's start with what the parents AREN'T teaching their children: the word "no", discipline, respect for others, self esteem, some kind of work ethic, self respect, respect for teachers and authority.

Zip, Zero, Nada. And it's simple as to why: Americans have, for the most part, become a society that does not like to be told they are doing anything wrong. School administrators tippy toe around parents when they have to call them for disciplinary reasons only to have to parent, irritated that THEIR personal time is interrupted, proclaim that the school is picking on their child, the child said they didn't commit the infraction and they stand behind their child, or (my favorite) boys will be boys or girls will be girls.

Now I'm not a school administrator. But if I were a school administrator, I'd be the biggest asshole and a bain to the existence of parents and students alike. You see, I'm lucky. I don't care if people like me. I don't live to have people like me. I'm immune from being validated by popular opinion. And school admins, hear me, are not in the business of having people like them. They are there to enforce the rules and, if it comes to that, make them hurt.

The ONLY way in today's society that you are going to get parents to take their brats in hand is to make them what they are: Responsible for Their Child's Actions. Parents are going to make damn sure they know where their kids are and where the alcohol came from if THEY have to spend 48 hours in the pokey due to a law that requires a 48 hour mandatory incarceration for first time DUI. Think about it. If you serve two days in the county lockup along with prostitutes, drug dealers and people who piss all over themselves for the fun of it because YOUR teen got caught drinking and/or driving.... how likely are YOU to make damn sure that you never have to do that again? Why you? Your child is a minor and YOU the PARENT, are responsible for your minor child's actions.

How about a nice fine that can be paid through your home owner's insurance? You think money is tight now? Wait until you get nailed with a fine that YOU have to pay as the parent because you teen went out and did something stupid. And the judges can do it. In order to get a judgment, they can clean you out: savings, stocks, 401K, insurance... and good luck ever getting insurance again. How about if, in addition to the fine, YOU are the one who has to perform the community service picking up trash along the main interstate? Like bright orange? How likely are you to take your child in hand and make them fly right if YOUR neighbors, friends, co workers, bosses etc are the ones driving by watching you pick up trash, weeds and dead roadkill while wearing an orange vest that says "I'm Doing Community Service so My Precious Teenager Doesn't Have To".

Is that the school's responsibility too?

Americans are requiring schools, just like they are requiring their health insurance, to cover everything. Problem is, covering everything costs.... and parents are too busy covering their credit card debt ceiling to pay for something additional like bad lifestyle habits and educating their children.

Well, sports fans...the Roaring Twenties Ride is over. It's over for the housing market, for the job market, for the jack asses on Wall Street and most likely over for Unspooled Spendthrift Congress people come Nov. 2010.. It's also over for public schools. They can't teach your child everything because there aren't enough hours in the day and you, as the parent, do little if anything, to help out.

You don't teach the basics to your children so you send these ill mannered, spoiled brats to school and then you hamstring the disciplinary options for the school. To add insult to injury, you pay public school teachers just a little better than a full time night manager at Mc Donald's and for that, you want an Einstein. With little or no responsibility.

Teaching children about drugs, sex, drinking and how to drive responsibly was and is and will always be a parent's responsibility. If you cannot handle it, scrape up the cash to find someone who WILL teach them this be it a driver's school or a good counselor or both. For those of you who are childless, NOW is a good time to ask YOURSELF if you have what it takes to be a good parent and teach your child what needs to be taught, get behind the teachers and enforce the lessons they teach and sacrifice that cute blouse or latest whatever to pay to have someone teach your child what you're not able to.

Death stats are not going to be appreciably altered by a school's driver's education curriculum. That is a scare tactic and if anything, adults should be angry at having their intelligence insulted like this.

Get real people. If you do not require your health insurance company to cover everything (sorry, your inability to put down the smokes and booze and booger sugar is NOT my problem) then your premiums would go down. If you do your job as a parent, you won't HAVE to worry about your kid winding up as a roadside memorial or a teenage rehab or pregnancy statistic. Your public schools cannot teach your children everything. Start taking some responsibility.



Friday, December 4, 2009

Tiger Woods and the Mystery of the Midlife Crisis

Yes. Ok. I got it. Tiger Woods, America's All Star Athletic Role Model Hero for the ages is.... gasp....human!!!! OMG!!!!! He's human. Far from perfect and not exactly Mr. Morality on the homefront.

Here's what Pink knows: Tiger Woods, Mr. Unstoppable on the Golf Course, dipped his nib outside of the marital pool. Wife found out about it and took a 9 Iron (allegedly) to her philandering husband whose escape attempt resulted in him running over fire hydrant and hitting a tree. Husband issued an apology, wife is now checking out her pre-nup (just in case) and the world continues to turn. Divorce may or may not ensue. We don't know because.... well... we're not married to Tiger Woods or Elin Nordgren.

Now, frankly Scarlett, none of this is really our business. We know about it because Tiger Woods is a superior athlete and he rakes in Big Fat Stupid Bucks from his endorsements and tournaments. (mostly endorsements) and the press follows his phenomenal golfing escapades. He's also a pretty nice guy and up until this Thanksgiving Whoopsy Daisy, pretty much kept his name and mug out of the tabloid press. He is, essentially, a nice guy. He gives to charity, doesn't do drugs, doesn't abuse animals, isn't photographed getting out of an SUV without panties on, isn't shooting up speedballs outside of the Viper Room.

His marital transgressions do not take away from the fact that he is a superior athlete and knows his game.

Am I excusing Tiger Woods' behavior in cheating on his wife with whatever bimbo-looking-for-a-book-deal-cocktail waitress that catches his eye? No. I am not. I neither condone nor understand his actions.

But I am also not surprised nor am I terribly disappointed in Woods either. This is because I, unlike almost everyone else whose life seems to be in upheaval over this scandal, never put Tiger Woods on a pedestal and assigned to him standards that no mortal could ever live up to. I don't worship athletes, movie stars, television reality show contestants, singers, musicians etc. I grew up in Las Vegas. And until you've gone to school with kids whose dads or uncles are Elvis impersonators, you really have no idea just how human performers are. Celebrities, be they athletes, singers, musicians, actors...whatever.... they're humans. They breathe in and out just like you. Put their pants on one leg at a time, just like you, eat and drink and go potty. Just like you.

Did I go crazy over a hot rockstar when I was 16? Yes. His name was Rick Springfield (I am REALLY dating myself here) and he was just to die for. Actually, he's still kind of hot. But I knew at sixteen years old that I would never grow up to marry Rick Springfield so I really didn't care when he married a couple of years later. I met Rick Springfield when I was 16...along with everyone else at my school who was working the Jerry Lewis Telethon that year. He was a nice guy but that was it. He didn't fart butterflies and I never saw a halo around his head. Growing up in Las Vegas, you meet or run into a LOT of celebrities. Andre Agassi (I'm still kind of pissed off at him to this day) pulled out in front of me in traffic (back in the day) and I damn near hit him. Understand that I was driving the crappiest Dodge Omni that Chrysler ever made at the time and he was in a flashy, black Porsche 911. He pulled right out in front of me and I had to hit the brakes hard to keep from hitting him. Tom Cruise accidentally knocked me down in the Ceasar's Palace casino when he was in town filming Rain Man. To be fair, he was actually sort of pushed into me by a crowd of fans and other people and I had no idea that he was on the other side of a slot machine block. ( I had taken on a part time job as a professional child care sitter and was leaving an assignment which is really the only way you'd ever find me in a casino in the first place.) He helped me up, asked me if I was ok and the crowd pretty much pushed him onward. Let's see ... who else? I mean come on.. it's Vegas. You live there long enough (and I no longer do) and you meet and run into pretty much anyone. They're just people who do something either extraordinary or unusual for a living.

Tiger Woods is no exception. He's a gifted athlete. But he's human. Nothing changed when he hit the big time. He was still human. So he's going to do human stuff and that means, stupid human stuff like chip around on his wife. I don't condone what he did.

But seriously. All this weeping and wailing and tearing of clothes and removing of photographs (see Scott Kelby's blog here: http://www.scottkelby.com/blog/2009/archives/7458) and bitter disappointment is a little too much.

Why the big disappointment? I'll tell you why... because people worship him. They expected him to fart butterflies and hallucinated that a halo glows around his head. So he acts human, screws up, gets caught and now everyone is ready to slit their wrists? They're upset because he's no longer a "role model for my child"?

People, he never should have been a role model for your children in the first place. He never should have been worshiped in the first place. You're disappointed because YOU set standards for him that no mortal can live up to. You decided that he should be above all humans, above all reproach and never, ever, make a mistake. YOU decided that he was a deity to worship. If you're upset and disappointed, well... that's too bad. Because YOU set yourself up for this disappointment. Personally, I worship someone...but you're not going to find Him in People Magazine's Sexiest Man issue. People, Sports Illustrated and the like usually don't see a lot of press mileage in a humble Jewish carpenter but I do. My Savior is definitely a role model because I'm always being asked What Would Jesus Do? Not: What would Michael Vick do?

See the difference? Tiger Woods never went into golf promising us anything other than his best work out on the golf course.

And while we're on the subject... C'mon Man!!!!! I don't condone cheating on one's spouse. But when you compare what Woods did to the transgressions of Ron Artest (Former Indiana Pacer and current LA Laker) aforementioned Michael (dog fight) Vick, Ray Carruth (former Carolina Panthers player who shot and killed the woman carrying his child because he didn't want to pay child support) and Ray Lewis (Baltimore Ravens player was arrested for murder but got off when witness testimony placing him as a perpetrator was altered. Lewis later reached monetary settlements with the families of the victims. To date, the criminal cases remain unsolved and no one has been held accountable for the murders) et al, what Woods has done hardly warrants these calls for his head on a silver platter or burning at the stake.

Get over yourselves, Sports Fans and accept that while these people might be extremely gifted, they're still human, they're going to do stupid stuff and their yearly income, lavish lifestyles, press attention, fame and fortunes are not passports to safety from being human. And stop worshiping them. Admire them for their talents, musicianship, game play, abilities, acting talents... whatever. Admire Tiger Woods for being (for the most part) a nice guy. Look at his transgressions and think for the first time in your life "I'm really glad I'm not him". And then teach your children to look up to someone else. And if you set the right example, the role model they will have will be you. And while you're at it, take a leaf out of Scott Kelby's blog (aforementioned) and rather than pass judgment on Woods, pray for him. Pray for him and for his family that they heal from this rift and move on and become stronger.